For the Love of Flowers

by Fernando Perfas

I love summer because it’s the time of the year when I see different flowers abloom. When I was younger, I hid my liking for flowers thinking that people might find my interest a bit effeminate. You can’t possibly blame me considering that we give baby girls names like Rose, Daisy, Lily, Holly, Violet, Heather, Fern, Jasmine, Myrtle, and Lavender.

Now I know better. It’s the anima in me wanting to express itself. I also know that men don’t just live in Mars, they frolic in Venus every once in a while; and so are the ladies who leave Venus to bask in the red sands of Mars when opportunity offers.

Besides their natural beauty and grace, flowers represent many things for me. Foremost, they stand for life and fertility. I relish the quiet early morning in my back porch where flowers in my little garden gleam in the sun. Bees, butterflies, and birds all abuzz communing with flowers, pollinating, spreading the seeds of life, mating, making love in the most natural way. It’s too tempting not to pick flowers to capture and deposit them into my crystal vase and enjoy their sight for a few days in the comforts of my home. Then there is the urge to gather some and offer them to a beloved.

Love and flowers seem like a natural combination. Flowers are one of the many manifestations of love in nature. Sex and flowers are even more intriguing symbolism. We deflower a virgin and refer to pubescent as the flowering of sexuality.

“The connection between flowers and our consciousness is so deep that it’s hard to imagine a world without flowers. Some saints announce their presence with the scent of a particular flower. Flowers are so mundane and yet they carry a rich spiritual symbolism across cultures.”

We celebrate many occasions with flowers, from the joyous to the most solemn. We welcome the birth of a newborn with a bouquet of flowers as a gift. We express appreciation for artists by throwing flowers on the stage after a resounding performance. We welcome guests with garlands and send them off with flowers. Three stems of rose tell a woman how deeply a man feels for her. A stem to tell her he is sorry for last night’s thoughtless remarks, with a box of chocolates and a nice dinner for added measure. We shower flowers the newlyweds and in return the bride throws the most important bundle, the wedding bouquet, for the lucky one who catches it and wishes she would be next. Finally, we express our sadness and condolences for those who pass away with flowers. We send them off with petals adorning their path to the afterlife. Many of these occasions won’t be complete without flowers adorning them.

The connection between flowers and our consciousness is so deep that it’s hard to imagine a world without flowers. Some saints announce their presence with the scent of a particular flower. Flowers are so mundane and yet they carry a rich spiritual symbolism across cultures.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR Dr. Fernando B. Perfas is an addiction specialist who has written several books and articles on the subject. He currently provides training and consulting services to various government and non-government drug treatment agencies regarding drug treatment and prevention approaches. He can be reached at fbperfas@gmail.com.

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